Monday, 7 October 2013

Incests- Father Sleeps With 15year Old Daughter

I noticed I have been reading a lot of this kind of news lately, and I did a little asking around around older people and found out that it has been going on in the country for as long as they can remember. I think it is just that there are so many ways to disseminate information now that it seems it is a new phenomenal. People like to make it seem as if incest is more common with white people, but from what I have been reading lately, it is jut as common here as it is in the white world.

I culled a post from with a related story to what we are writing about, read it below-

His reason for sleeping with his daughter was simple: She resembles her mother, his late wife.This was the reason a 42-year-old petty trader, Emmanuel Ubom gave for committing incest by repeatedly, raping his 15-year-old daughter. It was also alleged that he got her impregnated and got them terminated. 

This abominable act between father and daughter came to public notice when the father-of-two was caught red-handed by his co-tenant at their one-room apartment in their face-me-I-face-you tenement located at Etegbin Area, Ojo, Lagos.  Trouble started for Ubom, an Akwa-Ibom State indigene, when his daughter, Uduaka Emmanuel, who couldn’t condone his incessant sexual demands anymore confided in one of their neighbours who often play a motherly role to her and her younger sister since the demise of their mother.  Acting on the tip, the middle-aged woman (who begged to be anonymous) monitored the widower’s movement one sunny afternoon, and consequently caught him on the verge of having another sexual romp with his daughter. 

The woman raised an alarm which attracted other neighbours and the sex-crazed father was disgraced and dragged to Ojo Police Station by his angry neighbours.  Subsequently, Ubom was immediately charged to court on a one-count charge of unlawful defilement of his daughter, a crime punishable under Section 137 of the Criminal Laws of Lagos State of Nigeria, 2001. In the course of his trial, the visibly remorseful man who pleaded guilty to the charge preferred against him, begged the court to tamper justice with mercy for the sake of his daughters. “I can’t deny the fact that I used to sleep with my daughter. I don’t know what came over me; it is the devil’s work. Since I lost my wife five years ago, I have been so lonely and sexually starved, I don’t know how it all started, but my first daughter looks more like her mother; she possesses the physique and charming looks of her mother. I am so ashamed of myself; I just pray my daughters would forgive me, likewise the spirit of their dead mother,” Ubom pleaded before the court. 

The police prosecutor, Assistant Superintendent Friday Ezeh, condemned the heinous act of the accused and urged the court to award the accused the appropriate punishment so as to serve as deterrent to other wayward fathers and guardians who are sexually molesting their daughters and wards under their care.  “This act is becoming more rampant in our present day society, and if severe punishment is not handed to offenders to serve as scapegoat to others, the message wouldn’t be driven home properly. Where I come from, this barbaric act of father forcefully having carnal knowledge of the daughter could lead to ex-communication or even ostracizing of the man if found guilty. Ubom shouldn’t be pitied,” he argued.

So, that is that. What I am more concerned with is what would make a man overlook the African culture, the fear of being caught, and the potential psychological damage he could cause his daughter and go ahead and have sex with her? Well, the answer is simple and was stated in his apology- 'I've been so lonely and sexually starved.' I think the most problems we have in Nigeria and Africa as a whole is that we do not understand sex. We do not understand the power sexual urges in man. We treat sex as a taboo subject, and make it seem like it is only meant to be done when two people want to have a baby. But that is very wrong, and has caused a lot of problem like increased cases of incest and rape in the country.

In his life changing book (Think And Grow Rich), the late Napoleon Hill dedicated a whole chapter to the understanding of sexual energy. Why would he bother to do that in a book about getting rich? Because he understands the importance of sex in a man's life. Read this quote from the legendary book below.

"The desire for sexual expression is inborn and natural. The desire cannot, and should not be submerged or eliminated. But it should be given an outlet through forms of expression which enrich the body, mind, and spirit of man. If not given this form of outlet, through transmutation, it will seek outlets through purely physical channels."

Sexual energy can not be curbed, but has to be given a way of release. Pastors that have believed they can handle the urge are the ones you read about sleeping with their church members. And priest go even lower and sleep with alter boys. If incest is to be tackled in Nigeria, we have to look at the cause of the problem not the effect. If focus is kept only on dealing with the men that sleep with their daughters, there will still be more men that sleep with their daughters in the future. The problem should be tackled by better sex education in the community. Tackle the cause of the problem, not the effect.

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