I remember
about 5 years ago, my close friend Susan was under a lot of pressure by her
parents to get married. She was a very shy girl, and rarely left the house, or
socialized at work, so this was hard for her. But the pressure was too much, so
she made a goal to get married before cloaking 30; she was 28 years old at the
time. That same year, Susan met a guy at her work place, and within 3 months,
they were planning marriage. I wanted to tell her to chill a little, but it
would seem like I was trying to hold her back for my own selfish reasons. So,
the wedding held, and before the end of the first year, the couple already
started having problems.
You see, even
though her parents wanted her to marry at all cost, her mother didn’t like the
guy she brought to them, but her father had the final say, and blessed the
union. With time, Susan’s mother started finding fault in a lot of things her
daughter’s husband did. Susan being a mommy’s girl would also bring up ideas
the mother suggested for the forward movement of the house, and this would
infuriate the husband, and fights would break out. The mother’s love for her
daughter clouded her judgment, and she thought she was doing the right thing by
being by her daughter’s side all the time and not letting her be self
dependent. And within three years, the marriage crashed.